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Big Old Indie Mom

Welcome to the BOIM community! I’m a big, old, indie mom-to-be. Follow me on my journey to motherhood through IVF as a plus-size, 48-year-old, single woman.

I’m sharing every step of my story in hopes of inspiring other women who might be struggling with similar “barriers” in the world of fertility, motherhood and parenting.

Whether you’re big or small, old or young, single or in a relationship, this community is for you. Welcome!

Recent Posts

Week 10 - NIPT
Barbara B Barbara B

Week 10 - NIPT

I consider myself lucky to not have experienced serious morning sickness, but this constant nausea has been draining. The crushing fatigue I’ve had the past few weeks seems to be lifting a bit now…

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Week 11 - Rollercoaster
Barbara B Barbara B

Week 11 - Rollercoaster

This week was full of highs, lows and uncertainty. To say that pregnancy is an emotional (and physical) rollercoaster ride is a massive understatement.…

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Week 14 - Meeting My Obstetrician
Barbara B Barbara B

Week 14 - Meeting My Obstetrician

I was so excited for my first OB appointment! I had done a ton of research leading up to now, to find an OB that would be a good fit for me. My criteria? A kind and talented doctor with …

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Week 16 - Nesting
Barbara B Barbara B

Week 16 - Nesting

I’ve been dreaming about and planning the nursery for a long time now. And my dreams have come to fruition! …

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Week 19 - Ultrasound
Barbara B Barbara B

Week 19 - Ultrasound

Well, some days just don’t go as planned… I was scheduled for my 2nd OB appointment today, as well as my 19-week anatomy scan. My appointment was scheduled for 11am …

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Week 20 - Sleep Study
Barbara B Barbara B

Week 20 - Sleep Study

I’ve always been a good sleeper. I love sleep. I love the comfort of my bed, a cold bedroom, and snuggling into a puffy cloud of soft sheets, pillows and covers. Ahhhhh… I feeling the call of a good nap as I write this…

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Week 20 - A Conversation with the Dietitian
Barbara B Barbara B

Week 20 - A Conversation with the Dietitian

Dr. Maxwell’s Special Pregnancy Program is holistic. She truly does look at every aspect of your health, and provides wonderful opportunities for expectant mothers to learn, and to improve their health and habits to support a healthy pregnancy. So even though I’ve been through many diets…

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Week 21 - Ultrasound, Take Two
Barbara B Barbara B

Week 21 - Ultrasound, Take Two

Two weeks ago, I had my 19-week anatomy scan. The Technician was unable to get all the images needed because my sweet little baby was sleeping and wouldn’t move into the requisite position…

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